Have you come across a person who is so naturally friendly that when you put him inside a room of strangers, he’ll be friends with almost everyone in no time? We call such a people-person, someone unbelievably nice and charismatic that he can charm anyone into doing anything.

A socially-empowered person achieves so much greatness, basically because of the people that catapult him to success. He earns the trust and all-out support of the people, whom he had helped before. He never runs out of help. He can do anything with the plethora of people behind him. All because he knows he maximizes his social potential!

See, if you know your social skills and you make use of them, you will reach self-empowerment. Self-empowerment is making a general overhaul in your life and turning yourself into a happier and more successful person. If you can be one of those people-persons, then I can’t see any reason why you will not succeed. You just have to know how to start.


  1. Be genuine.

Hypocrisy will just bring you all the way down. Be genuinely nice and interested in people. Once they perceive that you are pretentious with selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye to self-empowerment. Be original in every aspect of life and stop been someone else.

  1. Be the greatest listener that you can be.

To earn the love and trust of the people, listen to their problems and sympathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to them with your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if every word matters and it does. The more people realize how interested you are in their affairs, the more closely they will be drawn to you. It is a natural law that can never be broken.

  1. Laugh out loud.

I do not mean that you force yourself to laugh for every joke cracked by someone, albeit you do not find it funny at all. This means finding humor in things and not being too darn serious. A person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually, attracts success.

  1. Don’t forget yourself.

In the process of fluttering around like a social butterfly, you might forget yourself, allowing everyone to push you over. Remember, love and value yourself before anyone else. If you deem yourself respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock to you and not trample on you.

  1. Do random acts of kindness.


You don’t have to be a billionaire for you to impact others positively. Little acts of kindness matters the most and this can be as simple as giving someone a surprise “birthday cake” or helping an elderly cross the street. When we were kindergarten students, kindness was taught to us and greatly practiced. Now is the time to revive the good deeds and this time, let them stay for good.

  1. Contact your old friends.

Sad how some friendships are destined to goodbye, but thanks to the advent of social media, you can do something about it. Relive the good old days by organizing a reunion and look for the great people whom you want to communicate with again. Adding these old friends to your friend list on Facebook and Whatsapp will surely make you feel good all over.

  1. Develop your personality.

Are you the introvert type? The truth is that you cant continue to go through life with those negative vibes all around you. Get rid of the bad traits and habits that perpetually hamper your growth. And really, who wants a melancholic friend anyway?

  1. Be confident.

Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember: be confident, not arrogant. Confidence in self is the first step to breaking barriers and creating a healthy relationship with others.

  1. Practice control.

When angry, don’t snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Be adult enough to take control of situation and transform your anger into something more productive and passive. As soon as people think your anger goes to volcanic proportions easily, they will find it hard to come to you.

  1. Keep nurturing your relationships.

Your relationship with your family, friends and significant others is too precious that you must not neglect it whatever happens. Go out and have fun with them. Do things together. Happiness will never fly from your side as long as the people who matter the most are close to you.


In the end, we all realize how important having people around us can prove to be, especially if we are the outgoing types that need to network with others and create an active list of people we can leverage on occasionally in our quest to achieve our desire goals in life.

Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate things, that require extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also be something that can provide security and can also be long lasting despite many trials. Building an effective and lasting relationship is a necessity for several reasons. For example in a group or organization, the well being of the people depends on how efficient and effective that group or organization works.

The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work well with the management.

An ineffective group or organization can really be very frustrating.  An effective group or organization can also ask so much on their members, that sometimes the members would be having no life outside the walls of the area where they work or sacrifice the other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines. For an organization or group with this kind of scenario, relationships can be stressed or suffer from breakdown.


People or other entities who depend on these groups or organization also suffer.


Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve  a common goal. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships.


Understanding the other parties’ feeling and position creates an effective and efficient relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the other party realizes this, they would feel the importance given to them


Effective and efficient relationships require parties to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent on the relationship. Assuming that the other party understands our needs and give us when we need it without asking for it is not a good practice.


Respect is the key to relationship. In order to create a more effective relationship, parties should treat each other with respect.  We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they function. You can also show respect to other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they can.


The opposite of respect is quick forming of judgments based on unfounded facts and prejudice.

Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. This also means respecting yourself and respecting others.

Another key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle differences of the other party directly. Differences between parties or people are quite interesting. For example in a conversation where each party listens to the other party, you may observe that each is having two different perspectives.

Work towards a win-win solution for both parties.

This can be done when at least one party acknowledges that the relationship is important. That party would then exert more time, effort and energy to understand the other party’s needs and deal with it to get it out of the way. Should they fail, it is comforting for that party to know that they tried.

Effectively listening and no pre-judging. This is important if parties are to understand each other.

Informal discussions are conducive for parties. They bring out issues and concerns comfortably. They also feel more relaxed making them think more clearly.

Developing an atmosphere where the other party can express their feelings when they need to.


When parties fail to express whatever is on their mind or their feelings, it can get in the way of building an effective relationship.

Parties should be aware that certain things exist naturally but should be controlled in any dealings in any relationship.  Human nature is one. Some of these things found in a relationship also include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person or party for a strained relationship, excluding the other party’s feelings when focusing on a task, no clear and defined objectives, roles and expectations of each party in a relationship is also unclear.

Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a must to further improve the relationship. As they say ‘No man is an Island’.

The world is in dire need of motivation and inspiration. So many people are down, depressed and discouraged about how their life has turned out, and the rate of suicide has been on the ascendancy over the last couple of years. The bitter truth is that things are getting more tougher and people are getting more fragile and hopeless about the situation on ground. The crime rate has gone to an all time high in most countries of the world even as unemployment keeps rising.
In the midst of these bleak situation, it is important to leverage on a platform that offers a bit of reprise and succor where there seems to been known even from the government. That is the idea behind “Strictly Motivational”. I share in the pains of millions all around the world, even as a victim myself, and it is important to create a medium where people can share their story. An enticing story of how they overcame the turmoil of hunger and distress to become successful in life.
The platform creates a window of opportunity for people to share their unique content and story in their own simple form to encourage those who are presently going through the same route they went through. I love seeing people smile, no matter how painful their experiences had been, and it is my humble prayer that this platform will bring smiles to millions who navigate daily through the various sections.
Once again i welcome each and every one of us to Strictly Motivational and i hope to hear from you daily, even as we journey through life together. We know Life may not offer us all we demand from it, but when we persist enough, our dreams and aspirations in life will surely come through. Thousands of successful business men/women, footballers, entrepreneurs, professionals and even semi professionals have surmounted tons of obstacles and i believe we too can get to our desired destination when we don’t give up.
You are warmly welcome
Clement Sadjere